How Cheating Affects the Divorce

Cheating or infidelity in any relationship is one of the hardest factors to forgive and forget. When your partner cheats, it puts severe strain on the marriage. The faithful spouse will automatically feel agitated and angry; the feeling of betrayal will give rise to emotions such as hate and revenge. These emotions will not only haunt the cheated spouse but will continuously compel them to pity themselves and think of ways through which they can think to harm you or hold you accountable for every other thing possible. Trust is everything in a relationship and without trust you may not be able to establish a bond that is unbreakable.

A cheating partner may feel as if the act will not affect the marriage but in reality, nothing damages a relationship more than cheating since it comes with betrayal and breaking of hopes that you have had with the spouse.

Cheating has often been associated with men and they are considered to be the ones who confuse their emotions with physical relationships. Meanwhile women are considered to be looking for stability and were less likely to make irrational decision based on opportunities. But this is not the case anymore, it has been observed through research hat in the past twenty years the number of cheating wives has increased. Around 40% of the women are now considered to be the ones cheating in a relationship just because they find more opportunity and financial security. One of the reasons can be that women are now financially more independent than they were in the past and they can easily support the consequences of an affair. Even though men still have the tendencies and chances of cheating in a marriage but women are reported to have more extra marital affairs in this time.

Alimony, known as the spousal support also has a great impact on such divorces, there are certain factors a judge would consider in such divorces.

  • The income and earnings of the spouse requesting alimony.
  • How much time does the obligee need to obtain adequate education to look for suitable employment so he/she can support themselves?
  • Duration of the marriage.
  • The couple’s standard of living before the divorce.
  • The age, physical ability and financial obligations of the spouse asking for alimony.

Blatant Behavior

 If the behavior of the cheating spouse in a marriage is egregious then your settlement could apparently be higher. Higher settlements are often negotiated by very competent lawyers who are capable of handling the case smartly and sensibly.

No fault and Fault divorce

A no fault divorce means that there is absolutely no need for the divorcer to provide with specific cause. There are no criteria to meet and neither party needs to prove anything.

Whereas a fault divorces are not as common, and in fact, most states no longer even recognize them. In the states that do recognize them, one of the spouses requests that a divorce be granted based on some fault of the other spouse.

The most common grounds for granting a fault divorce are:

  • Adultery
  • Abandonment for a certain length of time
  • Prison confinement
  • A spouse is physically unable to have sexual intercourse
  • Inflicting emotional or physical pain (cruelty)


Washington is a “no-fault divorce” state, which means that the dissolution of marriage does not require a showing of wrong doing by either party. Regarding adultery, Washington State divorce courts only require that one party in the marriage feel the relationship is irreconcilable and the dissolution of marriage request be granted.

The largest influence adultery has on a relationship is during the negotiation and settlement process. This is the time when both spouses are emotionally very fragile, the straying spouse is guilty/embarrassed often and the cheated spouse is angry and agitated. Here the attitudes of both spouses play a crucial role in the settlement since it is important to remain in the right frame of mind to plan and execute the negotiation and settlements. Many couples mess up their settlements because of these temperament issues and regret later so it’s better to take some time off and think about what you might need after the dissolution of the marriage.

Many of the spouses even forgive their partners for some time and often hold grudges and then end up getting a divorce later on, for those reasons, settlements and negotiations are often biased and couples want to renegotiate later. This is a difficult process and it is considered better not to revoke any investigations and sessions again. Not only is the couple suffering but the children are one of the prime victims of adultery, they just cannot trust the cheating parent any more and side with the cheated parent which makes it difficult for the cheating parent to communicate with them and explain their part of the story. Later on, the lives of the children are affected and they seem to lose closure with either parent. Many couples avoid cheating for their children even if they are not happy together.

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